Tiny House Lessons - Silver Linings

Now that y'all know what happened with my tiny house experience, I thought I'd share some good news.  :)

Although the last five months were quite stressful and at points seemed that they'd be neverending... like with any storm, there was a silver lining.  A few of them actually, as blessings were sprinkled in all along the way.

First, I am so grateful to all of the people that helped me with the house itself.  My "landlord" Bob (who owned the property I was parked on) and his electrician (my friend) Josh, who worked tirelessly for weeks trying to get me power for my house.  Then there was my friend Andrea's husband, also an electrician, who worked his magic and got me enough power so I could start staying at the house.  And of course, my friend Carri, who let me do laundry at her house about a million times!

Then, when I realized that I was going to need to get a lawyer (and couldn't really afford one), my friend Jewel (who you may also know from Tiny House Big Living!) hooked me up with her daughter, who is an attorney.  She drafted the demand letter (for a great price!) and helped me get the packet together that I later delivered to my builder.  Jewel also got two of "her guys" (that worked on her tiny house build) to come out and inspect my house free of charge.  They were very knowledgeable and familiar with tiny houses, so they were a huge help!  If you're in the Charlotte area, check them out... At Your Service Electric Company and PLS Contracting.  I honestly don't know what I would've done without the three of them, so I am VERY grateful for their help!

And of course, I am grateful that my builder actually gave me a refund and that I have the chance to start over.  I had hoped and wished that I'd get that chance, but I honestly didn't really think it was going to happen, so that was a straight-up MIRACLE.

But that's not all.

As I've mentioned in other posts, the whole tiny house experience came at the same time as a lot of other big "changes" in my life.  I was cleaning out my body with healthier eating, cleaning out my house with healthier products and cleaning out my mind by letting go of old emotions and making my days really count.  And I knew I wanted to share all of these experiences with other people and hopefully help and inspire them to do the same.

So I set out to do just that, revamping my website and starting to develop eBooks and digital products on living a "F.a.s.t." life.  But the cool thing is... the tiny house actually gave me an audience to share these things with.  Before the house, I had a modest 100 subscribers on my blog and now I am just shy of 900!  I've been able to write and sell my first eBook and have even recently been invited to be a guest speaker at next year's "Tiny House Jamboree" convention!

But besides the wonderful people and business opportunities I have been blessed with, there were some lessons involved as well:

  1. Don't be too trusting.  I know I can be too "sunshine and rainbows" sometimes.  I accept that about myself.  And usually, it's not something I want to change.  I don't want to be jaded, bitter or pessimistic.  But I don't want to be naive either.  So I learned that you can still expect the best from someone, but it doesn't hurt to still do your homework on them just in case.  ;)
     
  2. It's okay to speak up.  This is a biggie for me.  In fact, the more I delve into this with the meditations and emotional work I've been doing lately, the more I realize this goes WAY back.  I've always been one to just push things down inside or "go with the flow" as opposed to speaking up.  But I know now that it is a GOOD thing to speak up for yourself.
     
  3. Being strong doesn't make you mean.  I've always sort of subconsciously felt the need to take care of everyone else's feelings.  Meaning a lot of times, I would sacrifice my own feelings or well-being, just to make sure they are "okay."  But I realize now that not only is that not healthy, but it's also not the truth.  Being strong and taking care of yourself doesn't make you mean or a b**ch.  You can be strong and brave, and still be a loving and positive person.  (See: Sandra Bullock's character from the Blind Side or my friend Jewel)  :)

I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and that God can use anything for good.  We may not always be able to see it at the time but there are always small blessings hidden in the trials and silver linings in the storm clouds.

We just need to keep our eyes and our hearts open to receive them.

Til next time, keep your worries tiny and your dreams BIG!