It’s not that I’m against New Year’s Resolutions.
Being the OCD person that I am, I actually really enjoy “clean slates” and “fresh starts.” And, I certainly am a big proponent of life change and doing away with all the things in your life that aren’t necessary or helping you to become the YOU you were created to be.
But, what I’m not a fan of… the reason I don’t necessarily love New Year’s Resolutions… is the idea that just because you flip the page on the calendar to a new year, you’re suddenly going to be ready to live in a completely different way than you did before.
Yes… I do think it’s possible to live in a different way than you have before. That’s kind of the whole mission behind Live a F.a.s.t. Life. ;) But, that kind of life change doesn’t happen just because it turns a certain date.
Real, lasting life change happens because you’re ready for it. Plain and simple.
Real life change happens when you reach the point where the pain and discomfort of staying where you’re at far outweighs any discomfort you may feel from changing your ways or habits. It happens when you reach the point of being sick and tired of feeling sick and tired.
It happens when you’re ready. And that could be on December 31st, January 1st or June 25th.
The date doesn’t matter. What matters is your intention.
Which is why, this year, I decided to write some New Year’s Intentions instead of Resolutions. I feel like it takes that widely-perceived pressure off of the whole topic because I’m not resolving that I will absolutely do something. I am saying that I intend to.
For example, this year, some of my New Year’s Intentions are to:
Be in bed by 10 p.m.
Get up earlier.
Memorize Scripture verses.
Start doing some sort of strength training.
And I do very much intend to do all of them and have already been really good so far this year with the first three. But, if I miss a day or don’t do one of them, it’s not the end of the world and it doesn’t mean I “failed.”
Which is the other thing I don’t really like about New Year’s Resolutions.
The whole reason I do what I do and blog/speak/write about “stripping down and cleaning up” your life so you can live with more peace, abundance and joy is not to make people feel condemned or pressured or stressed. It’s quite the opposite!
I want to inspire people to make whatever changes they feel called to in their own lives because I know how much freer and lighter they will feel on the “other side.” So, I don’t really like the built-in negativity that implies that if you don’t keep up with your resolutions, you’ve failed and are doomed to be a loser the rest of the year.
Hear this now - every single day you wake up is another opportunity to start living differently.
So, you know that? If I don’t go to bed on time tonight, I’ll try again tomorrow. And if you didn’t make it to the 6 a.m. workout class you wanted to take, try again the next day.
It’s about improving your life, not proving yourself to the world or anyone else.
Yes, by all means, I think it’s a great idea to write down some new habits you want to create in the New Year or some old ones you want to ditch. Post them up somewhere you can see them.
But, don’t let them intimidate you and don’t them bully you.
Make changes in your life because you’re ready. Because you want to, you need to and you finally realize that you CAN.
I don’t care if it’s today on January 7th or three months from now on March 7th.
You’ve got this. You can do it.
Until next time, keep your worries tiny and your dreams BIG!